How To Be Happy

Posted by admin on November 20, 2011

How To Be Happy by Jane Thurnell-Read

Many people put being happy at the top of the list of things they want to achieve in life. Those that don’t often put things at the top that they believe will ultimately lead to them being happy. But research suggests that most of us aren’t happy most of the time. So here are some simple suggestions for how you can be happier in life:

Taking Delight In Small Things

Many people belittle themselves for getting immense satisfaction from small things. You hear people say things like: “I know it’s sad but I get such a lot of satisfaction from ..” What that is varies. It can be:

• A tidy desk drawer
• A line of washing
• A new magazine
• The colour purple
• The downy hair on my child’s arm
• Chopping onions finely
• Etc.

The usual implication is that it’s not a good thing to get satisfaction from small things. It shows a slightly shameful side to your character. May be it means your shallow and not ambitious. But think about this again. Isn’t it better to have small things that can give you a sense of happiness and satisfaction, rather than insisting on the big things? Focusing on achieving happiness in small things, doesn’t mean you can’t achieve the big and dramatic things too.

Have Lots Of Different Ways You Can Succeed And Feel Good About Yourself

As well as having small things that make you happy, make sure you have lots of ways you can succeed and feel good about yourself. This is particularly important if you are involved in some long term project, such as losing weight, getting fit or achieving a high ranking within your organisation. It’s easy to set these things as a single goal, but have multiple goals so that you can feel you’re achieving something most of the time. Then you feel good about yourself and want to try even harder. So, for example, if you’re big goal is to get fitter have lots of different takes on it, e.g.

• Going to the gym 3 times this week
• Achieving a 90% heart rate on at least one exercise session this week.
• Enjoying drinking water.

You probably need about 6 different goals to keep you motivated and involved. Try to

achieve them all, but when you don’t, don’t feel down but concentrate on the ones that you are achieving.
This is just one aspect of your life, but have goals for lots of different aspects of your life.
If you don’t like the word ‘goal’ and find it a turn-off, rephrase it. How about satisfaction points or happiness highs?

Make Unhappiness Harder To Achieve

Many people only need one thing to go wrong in order to be unhappy and need everything to be right in order to be happy. This makes happiness almost unachievable. When things go wrong, remind yourself about all the things that are right in your life. They are still there – focus is what counts. Also think about what having the problem means

• Too much housework? You could be living in  a small one-room shack or on the street.
• Queuing at the supermarket? Look at your groceries – would you prefer not to have money to buy food?
• Sat in a traffic queue? You have a car.

Sometimes catastrophic events do happen and then unhappiness is where you need to be. But often unhappiness is self-indulgent, representing a belief that everything should be good and easy for us. Remember what Friedrich Nietzsche said: “That which does not kill us makes us stronger. “

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